DeAnna VandeZande is sharing a timely message with us…

Greetings! I come to you today with a message about your relationships. Many of you have come a long way in your spiritual journey. You have reached new levels of enlightenment and self-awareness and Spirit is very pleased with your progress. Spirit is aware, however, that there are those of you who are struggling in some of your relationships and this is causing you quite a bit of distress, especially since you have made so many positive changes in your life and it seems that the more enlightened you become, the more discord shows up in some of your relationships. Spirit says to you; do not be disheartened, this is to be expected.

But why, why is this discord coming up? Well, the very simple reason is because your vibration is now higher than what your relationship partners are accustomed to experiencing from you, and as your vibration increases, it may cause unease and distress to those around you whose vibration has not yet reached that same level. In a subtle, often subconscious way, your personal changes are causing others to be more aware of areas in their own lives that they need to work on. Although this may be on a subconscious level, it can cause very real conflict in the relationship, as it is the emotional and spiritual equivalent of nails on a chalk board for them and it brings them much discomfort. This discomfort shows itself in the relationship as discord through misunderstandings, disagreements, hurt feelings, etc.

So what are you to do? Continue to love them. In the midst of the conflict, know that the conflict itself is temporary. Acknowledge to yourself that some of your relationship partners may currently be operating at a lower spiritual vibration than you are at this particular moment. This should only be a realization, however, and you should not give in to the temptation to judge them for their seeming lack of spiritual insight. You yourself were once at a very different frequency than you are now, and as you grow spiritually, you will come to realize that even your current state is at a much lower vibration than where you are headed in your spiritual journey.

In dealing with your relationships, if you remain steadfast, being a shining example of love and light, keeping your vibration at the new, higher level, one of two things will happen in your relationships… your relationship partners will either raise their vibration to sync to yours, being encouraged by your spirit, or the conflict will continue as they resist the change, until one of you chooses to dissolve the relationship.

The harsh reality is that not all relationships survive a spiritual shift. Another reality we often overlook is that not all of them are supposed to. We all have a purpose and reason for being in each other’s lives, but that does not always mean it is to be forever. Change is not always comfortable, and not all relationships are meant to be permanent. If the relationship is with a friend or acquaintance, you may notice that they will simply fall away, you will just drift apart in a fairly painless manner. These changes, of course, are considerably more difficult in more emotionally intense relationships such as a marriage or romantic partnership.

For these struggling relationships, especially those that have more emotional depth, Spirit would remind you that you do not yet know the big picture for this life of yours. You can only see what lies immediately before you, not what lies beyond the next bend in the road. If the relationship dissolves, Spirit encourages you to take comfort in this, knowing that Spirit knows the path that is ahead for you. And again you should continue to refrain from judgment, remembering that we are all on the same journey, just at different points along the path. Trust that your time together has served its purpose and then release your relationship partner, with love in your heart, and wish them well in their own journey.

Spirit knows that personal transformation can cause major changes and shake-ups in your relationship hierarchy, but wants you to remember that this is not a negative thing, though it may prove to be uncomfortable for a time, it is often necessary for future spiritual growth and to invite other relationships into your life. It is okay to be sad for a time, but it is equally okay to move on and release the struggle. Spirit is proud of you and all the great strides you have made.

Namaste,

DeAnna VandeZande