“You must love in such a way that the other person feels free.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
Consider this quote for a few moments and then ask yourself this question:
“Am I loving myself in a way that allows me to feel free?”
When this question came to me I had to be honest with myself and the answer was ‘No’. Some of the Nos were small and some were much bigger but understanding it from a different perspective was empowering. My ego had been running a program disguised as “protection” keeping me safe from feelings, situations, and experiences of simply being my True Self.
I keep this question with me in my now moments of self-doubt and second guessing. I will admit sometimes the answer is ‘Not yet’ (this is more encouraging than a simple No.) It’s gotten so much easier and easier to say Yes as I continue to heal those parts of myself.
A few more examples:
- Do I love myself enough to eat healthy and stay active?
- Do I love myself enough to NOT eat a whole bag of dark chocolate covered blueberries in one sitting? (Yesterday I loved the candy more.)
- Do I love myself enough to address tasks in a timely manner?
- Do I love myself enough to let go of energies that no longer serve my highest good?
- Do I love myself enough to stand peacefully in my own power?
- Do I love myself enough to be fully present in every moment?
- Do I love myself enough to allow my light to shine at its full brightness?
- Do I love myself enough to recognize when someone is casting shadow on my light?
- Do I love myself enough not to feel threatened by the brightness of others’ lights?
- Do I love myself enough to be vulnerable without fear of judgement or abandonment?
- Do I love myself enough to ask MORE questions when I answer a question ‘Not yet’?
- Do I love myself enough to do the work required to heal the unhealed parts of me that are holding me back?
- Do I love myself enough to do the best I can?
- Do I love myself enough to answer these questions with complete honesty?
- Do I love myself to be compassionate and understanding anytime I answer ‘Not yet’?
Try exploring yourself with this approach. Next time you find yourself holding you (or others) back, ask more questions to understand why – then do the inner work to heal the Not yet into a Yes.
Loving Myself and Each of You – Together in Oneness,